Born to Criticize

Having a conversation with a friend on a general topic we agreed on a point that some people no matter what they have to criticize. It is not their fault I will say they are born to criticize.

                                                        

The point is not that we should not criticize it is where and when to criticize. The person always criticizing lose the value of his words. People stop taking him seriously instead they start to maintain a safe distance from him. Because they know that going your way will be poisonous. 

Dealing with criticism

there are two types of criticism 

• Constructive 
• Destructive 

learning the difference between the two can help you deal with any criticism you receive. 

It is the Human nature that when a person is challenged by another he usually takes it in a negative manner. The story changes on how you take it .

 

the difference between constructive and destructive criticism is the tone comments are delivered .

In both ways, your ideas, character, ability etc are challenged. 

when someone is giving destructive criticism it is hurting your pride and it leaves a negative effect on one's self-esteem and confidence. Destructive criticism can be someone's thoughtfulness but most of the time is deliberately malicious and hurtful. it sometimes leads to anger and/or aggression.  

on the other hand, constructive criticism is the opposite people criticize for your good point out mistakes, but also give you suggestions about how improvements can be made. you can take it as feedback and help yourself to improve. 

yes, it also hurts but a little and easier to accept. 

the point to remember is that you can take advantage in both the scenarios.

So the thing is that people will criticize they won't stop it is you who can choose. 

                                                       

Just an example 

I was sitting with someone he kept on criticizing that one organization for not maintaining its standards he was right at that time we valued him but when we met the other day and he was told that the organization has corrected itself and is maintaining standards, yes you are thinking right he again criticizes that no they are faking it they show it to play with your minds etc. 

these kind of people will see a wall hanging even you have used all means to keep it straight they will find that the wall hanging is not straight .

These are  are born to criticize no matter what they will find something negative even it has a positive aspect Yes they do it deliberately the born purpose is this and when you will confront them they won't admit instead they will criticize you.

                                                           

So my suggestion is if you want to be healthy maintain a safe distance from these kinds of people or if you cannot maintain a distance just enjoy at that time don't absorb it. 

Stay safe, Be happy 

Dr.D signed out.